Posts Tagged ‘leadership’

Invest in People

October 30, 2013

Teachers invest in people.  They help you learn to study, give you knowledge, impress on you the reasons and importance of why you need to study, they help you achieve goals, they make effort to help you learn.

Doctors invest in people.  They help you stay healthy, help you understand your body, they give you medicine to make you better, they monitor your progress, they want you to grow and enjoy life.

But teachers and doctors are not the only ones who can invest in people.  Each of us can.  Each of us have the same opportunity and ability to invest in others.  But do we?

I received communication from a client a few weeks ago via email after I had shared a blog that I thought the client would be interested in following:

Thank you so much for continuing to invest in me…. I rarely if ever see that!!! and I love it 🙂 Please continue passing along things that you think can help me grow…

What does it take to invest in someone?

I believe it starts with a foundation of common interest about them and their lives.  It takes paying attention to what they are interested in or want to grow in.  It takes sharing and giving.  It takes courage.  It takes time.  It takes an honest attempt to help.  It takes being willing to give and not get anything in return.  It takes wanting them to succeed above all else.  Even before you succeed.

Does it take much?  No, it really doesn’t, but most people focus so much on what they get they don’t give.  They don’t focus on helping others succeed.  They don’t spend time knowing how to learn to grow others, time learning to learn them, time to give.  They don’t invest.  Even in the small things.

May I encourage you today, spend a little bit of time and invest in those around you!

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October 23, 2013

Why Good Communication is Key

August 8, 2013

In order to be a great leader you must be a great communicator. The key to becoming a skillful communicator is rarely found in what has been taught in the world of education.  From our earliest days in the classroom we are trained to focus on enunciation, vocabulary, presence, delivery, grammar, syntax and the like. In other words, we are taught to focus on ourselves. While each of these things are important to learn, the critical elements of communication are rarely taught.

In order to be a great communicator, you have to be intentional in your communication.  You have to be keenly focused on the relationship and your interaction with others.  Your message won’t be taken to heart by your audience and won’t be understood, let alone make an impact if you don’t.

While developing an understanding of great communication skills is easier than one might think, being able to appropriately draw upon said skills when the chips are down is not always as easy as one might hope for.

The best communicators are great listeners and astute in their observations. Great communicators are skilled at reading a person/group by sensing the moods, dynamics, attitudes, values and concerns of those being communicated with. Not only do they read their environment well, but they possess the uncanny ability to adapt their messaging to said environment without missing a beat. The key is that the message is not about the messenger, it must be 100% about the listener and meeting the needs and the expectations of those you’re communicating with.

What ways do you practice your communication skills?

How do you help a Team Member that is Hurting?

June 8, 2013

Have you ever been in the position where you arrived at work to find a Team Member hurting?  You can see it in their eyes, their body language, their expression, the mood displayed.

How do you approach someone that is hurting to find out how you can help?

How do you show you care without prying into their personal life and asking them to share what they may not feel comfortable sharing?

How do you reach out and encourage?

How do you show support and communicate “I love you” no matter what it is that has happened?  No matter what you are feeling?  No matter if it will get better.

Every person  has a different temperament, however the following list are ways you can make an impact and open the door to let them know you saw the pain in their life and know they are experiencing a difficult time.

 

Here are 5 simple things you can do to reach out and show you care:

  • Give a hug.  There is nothing in the world like a hug.  There is nothing that can communicate what words can’t with a hug.  It doesn’t have to be long, it doesn’t have to be forceful, just a quick pull towards you and squeeze them tight and let them go.
  • Invite them to share if they wish to.  A simple: “You seem to be having a rough day, do you need to talk?”  Sometimes all that someone needs to do is share what is hurting them, bothering or perplexing them, creating frustration in them, etc.  Sometimes if they just have someone who is willing to listen they can open up and tell you more then you ever dreamed they would.
  • Inquire if you can do something.  A simple: “Is there anything I can do for you today?”  If you have a report with the individual, they will know you are genuinely interested in their life and are not manipulating the conversation to obtain gossip.
  • Let them know you are praying for them.  If you feel they are open to this, pull them in your office and grab their hands and pray together.  If you don’t feel this would be received well, do it alone.
  • Send them an email, text message or card in the mail to let them know you care and are thinking of them.  Nothing cheers up a hurting, lonely, distraught heart like a message from a friend to let them know you care.

What is something you have done and found to work at helping a Team Member who is hurting?  Share below!