Archive for the ‘Networking’ Category

How to control your Facebook News Feed

September 26, 2013

If you are like me, you have lots of Facebook Friends and you support the companies you do business with, your strategic business partners, and ones that relate to your industry or hobbies.  However, sometimes it seems like what you are seeing in your News Feed isn’t encouraging, helpful, or interesting.  What do you do?

Well, my recommendation is to filter your settings so that you get what you want to see on a daily basis!  Also, are you aware that if you Share, Like or Comment on posts more regularly in your news feed that Facebook will detect you want more and create your News Feed accordingly?  Yup!  Tis true.

So how do you control your News Feed?

  1. Hover over the “Like” button on your friends wall or company page that you have liked and make sure “Show In News Feed” is selected.
  2. Once that is set, if you select “Settings”, you can choose from All, Most, or Only Important updates to display to change what will post into your News Feed.  The settings are automatically set to Most Updates, which I kinda think is crazy, but that is how it is!
  3. If you REALLY don’t want to miss a post, select “Get Notifications” from that same drop-down menu.  This will ensure you get every single post!
  4. Additionally, you can use Facebook’s new “Interest Lists”.
What other tips do you have to control and create a News Feed that inspires, encourages and benefits you?  Share with us!

Dilemmas with Friends on Social Media

September 24, 2013

Social Media is a great tool!  You can connect with people all over the world.  However, as with all tools, you have to ensure that you are using them to your best advantage.

I get asked frequently how to handle “Friend Requests” on Facebook.  The friend terminology is sort of a loose term.  Friend on what level?

In order to answer that, you need to understand why you have a platform on Social Media.  Specifically in today’s blog post we will discuss Facebook and the relationship with requests to be connected.  Once you have determined what your platform is and why you have it, you can move on to answer other questions, but without knowing this, you are going to be limited at knowing how to effectively address them.

Here are some questions to help you figure out that dilemma of adding someone to your network.

  • Is the request you received from someone you know?
  • If so, do you want to interact with them?  Do you want to know what is going on in their lives?  Do you want them to know what is going on in your life?
  • If not, do you have mutual friends?
  • If not, are they someone who may have connections to others that you wish to interact with?
  • If not, are they a competitor?
  • Is the request SPAM or solicitation that you don’t want?
  • Do they work for a company that you want to be connected to?
  • Are they well known in the community as someone who serves and is giving and you would like to know?
  • Do they have a profile picture or are they hiding and not being honest about who they are?
  • Do you share mutual interests?
  • Were you referred to them?

Some of these things are hard to answer before you have accepted the friend request.  However, you can always check out LinkedIn and even Google them to see what comes up.  You can learn a lot about someone online.

Additionally, I don’t think you should be afraid to reach out and say “Hey, Thanks for the connection. I apologize, but I don’t recognize your name or picture.  Can you tell me where we met?  Or how you know me?  If you don’t mind me asking, what is your reason for connecting?”

How someone responds or doesn’t respond tells you a lot about their request too!  Make sure that the friends you connect with support your platform and reason for using Social Media, particularly Facebook and you will ensure your interactions are fun, supportive and beneficial.

Do you have other questions you think are good ones to ask yourself when reviewing accepting a “Friend Request”?

Social Media Questions

August 16, 2013

Facebook is a main form of Social Media interaction today.  Everyone uses it for a different platform.  Some people are out to vent about their day.  Some people check in at every spot they go.  Some people never post, never like, never comment, never share, never seem alive.  Some people even have a generic profile picture because they want to look like they are hiding.  No matter your reasons, your method, your choice of which Social Media you use, we all must address these questions:

  • What do I want to get out of Social Media?
  • Who do I want to interact with?
  • Why do I want to be on Social Media?
  • Who are my “friends”?
  • What happens if someone disagrees with my post?
  • What happens if I hurt someone’s feelings?
  • What message do I want my Social Media to say about me?
  • How often do I wish to engage on Social Media?
  • Who am I trying to target with my Social Media?
  • What are the benefits of Social Media?

These are a few questions that you must answer in order to create and have the online Social Media presence you want.  Once these are answered, you can move forward with implementing the purpose and vision you have for Social Media.

As you reflect on the answer to these questions above, are there others you feel need to be asked?  If so, share them with the readers below!

We look forward to hearing from you and you sharing the what, why, and who of Social Media with us!

Why do you use Social Media?

August 14, 2013

As a society that has created a social platform online, I find it interesting the reasons why people use it, how the patterns vary, and what people expect to get out of it. I like to study them to learn what qualities I want to build in my Social Media presence.

I find a common thread that people want to be followed, but are not interested in following you back. They want you to comment on their post, but are not interested in engaging back. Is what you have to say more important than what I have to say?

To me, the online social presence shouldn’t be any different then your offline social presence. Do you have friendships just to be a one way street? Do you engage with people only to have a bunch of friends but not be a friend? Are you a giver or just a taker?

Why do we look at the online presence different then the offline? If God views what you think in your heart the same as what comes out of your mouth, why is more importance put on the online vs the offline?

If we really kept in mind that people do business with people they know, like, and trust…wouldn’t that impact how we interacted a lot more?

If we remember that if you help enough people get what they want, they will help you get what you want, don’t you think it would make a difference in how you interacted on Social Media?  What if we kept in focus that every person out there wants happiness, meaning, and significance…would this change how we interacted with them?  Would we spend more time encouraging and uplifting others?

So my question to you today is: What is your purpose in creating a Social Media presence?  Make it intentional!

5 Key Components to your Commercial

May 2, 2012

Everyone of us have a commercial about our company.  Here are 4 Key Components you need to cover you yours:

  • Component 1: Your product name and category.
  • Component 2: The problem you are attempting to solve.
  • Component 3: Your proposed solution.
  • Component 4: The key benefit of your solution.
  • Component 5: The difference between your services and someone who offers services similar to yours.

How you cover these will be all in how you portray your Story.  Each of us have a Story…tell it to intrigue your audience and grab their attention.


I met you at a Networking Event…

April 25, 2012

I met you at a Networking Event.  We exchanged business cards.

That does not mean:

  1. I will refer to you.
  2. You can add me to your Email Marketing Campaign, just because you have my information without my permission to do so.
  3. We are Strategic Business Partners.
  4. I want to be apart of your downline.
  5. You are professional and someone I wish to work with.

It does mean:

  1. I have an opportunity to get to know you, learn about what you do, and how I can be of service to you.
  2. You may ask to add me to your Email Marketing Campaign, but if I don’t want to, that is okay, it is my choice.  Note:  If you don’t ask me first, it is guaranteed that I will be opting out.  If you don’t have that option, I will make sure you understand that you must remove me because you violated this.
  3. I will do my best to get you the connections you need in business.
  4. I am working to build my business just as much as you are yours and I would like the same respect.
  5. I will encourage you in your Entrepreneurship.  I will be a supporter in every way possible.

People do business with people they know, like and trust.  Give me a chance to get to know you, learn what you do, why you do what you do, how you do what you do, an opportunity to see what you are like, if you are professional, trustworthy, and how you respond to our interactions.  These things will create a relationship and give us both a better chance at referrals and being a Strategic Business Partners.  Please don’t kill any chance of this by SPAMING me with your information, products, newsletters, and like materials.  Nobody wants pushy people in our lives, we have plenty of them we can’t control.  You will kill any opportunity with me if you do this.

Podcast: Get More Done in Less Time

February 28, 2012

Absorb what is useful, discard what is not, add what is uniquely your own.  – Bruce Lee

Do you feel you have so much to do and so little time to do it?  Your energy is your most asset.  Our productivity and our happiness suffers when we don’t take care of it.  We have to be intentional in when to use it and when to save it.  We all have the same amount of time.  Focus your energy…

A great article and podcast by one of my friends, Pam Weatherford, owner of D3Seminars.  She has a very popular class called Cut the CRAP: Get More Done in Less Time.  This is a short review of the article and podcast, but you can read it and/or listen to it here.  [My comments are entered in these brackets…and yes, I am one of the chics that join her regularly for a Yogurt Brainstorming Session!]

What gets in our way?  Entrepreneurs think they need to do everything themselves.  You have to learn to delegate.

C – Complete It

R – Refuse It

A – Assign It

P – Pitch it

Complete, say No to, Delegate or Throw Away?  [Wow is it really that simple?]  It is not always about doing more.  Don’t get bogged down with everything that comes your way.  Set boundaries.  Being an Entrepreneur is hard work.  We don’t always know how to say no.  Where can I put 20% of my time & effort to get 80% of results so that you are more efficient and effective. Prioritize and focus on taking one bite at a time.  You have to answer what is the highest and best use of my time and do those things.  It helps to have a Mentor or a Coach when you get stuck in the weeds.  You have to stay on track and not get overwhelmed.

Are you running to stand still?  Or are you running on the treadmill?  Take a moment to breathe.  Relax.  Refocus.

Sometimes we are just scarred to say no.  We have to practice this.  If it doesn’t resonate, you need to say: “I am sorry, that doesn’t fit in with where I am going.” [I forget, it is my life, not yours and God is the One I am following on this Journey.  I need to learn that No is a word and a complete sentence.]

Highly productive people stay focused.  Stay away from the bright shiny objects syndrome.  Have a niche.  Do what you are great at and passionate about.  [What a loaded reminder…focused on what is important, not what is not important. Glitter gets you nowhere, everytime. ]

Eat the frog.

It is an every day process.  Think about your focus, remember it is not about working harder.  Don’t fight it if you are not feeling it.

You have to take care of yourself to be your best.

[I have wanted to take this class several times she has offered it; however every time that it has been offered it has been a conflict of interest with other business and client events…so this was a teaser that wet my appetite to review cutting the stuff out of my life!]

Cowtown Netweavers 08.31.2011

August 31, 2011

Today was a special day at Cowtown Netweavers.  It marks a 1-year Anniversary for me serving as  Board Member for the group!  It has been an incredible experience and I have loved every minute of it.  However, as I move forward in trying to really grow my business, I have come to realize that I can no longer serve in this position and must resign.  I must tell you that it was hard to do, but sometimes we have to refocus are ventures elsewhere!


The topic discussed today was Blogs.  A very interesting topic because it is something I enjoy doing…not only for the benefit of education and helping others, but because I enjoy writing.  I am going to recap today’s meeting highlights:

Blog = web & log to become the term blog

Key Elements needed in a blog:

  • title = attention getting
  • body = 300-500 words, key words that need to be written in it 2-4x’s
  • tag = what the blog is about
Reasons to blog:
  • increase ranks on Google
  • make yourself known as an expert
  • increase awareness on a topic
Do you blog?  Do you enjoy blogging?  How often do you blog?  Any comments or suggestions to my fellow networking friends & colleagues?

Do you let others hinder your plan?

August 29, 2011

Today, I will take a path different then the normal blog post and am going to write a personal story on my blog…one that I hope will encourage you to be you and follow the direction of giving out of a pure heart to help others.

I have been attending networking groups for a year now.  Each group is different in format from how long the meetings are, to the structure of the meetings, to the type of attendee’s with B2B, B2C and MLM format.

Earlier this year, I was the spot light at one of these events and had 20 minutes to speak about my business.  A Board Member of the group asked me what I was going to speak on and I informed him that I was going to share with the group how to understand and maximize your insurance benefits along with information regarding their EOBs (Explanation of Benefits).  He informed me that I was going to utterly bore the group and that “their eyes are going to glaze over not too long into your speech”.  I must tell you that this individuals comment, totally annoyed me!  The individual was old enough to be my Grandpa and his lack of encouragement made my respect for him as a leader of the group be diminished.  If I were to have spoken about Medical Billing in a way that I know it, yes, the group would have been utterly bored because this topic is not going to interest very many people.  However, I was taking my 15 years experience in the industry and turning it into an informational session that would provide them with helpful tips and knowledge that they could walk away with.  I knew it would benefit many, if not all the attendee’s.  I spoke and left enough time for questions.  Out of all the times I have attended this group, there are usually 1-3 people with questions. I had about 10 or 12!  At the end of the meeting, that previous individual that had no encouragement for me came up to me and told me “Wow, that was an incredible speech.  I was impressed.  You really had some great information.”  I said “Thank You.  My goal is to be helpful and provide information that everyone can use.”  I could have said a million other things, but the fact was I proved what my company does in a different way made a great impact more than anything I could have ever said.  Because of the way I approached this opportunity and the information I provided, an attendee that was in the audience wanted me to speak to their client base on the same subject.  This event occurred this past Saturday and you can read the agenda here.

You never know what opportunities will come from your efforts.  I want to encourage you in a few small ways:

  • Be willing to share and help others with information that they can take with them and utilize in their life.
  • Don’t give up when someone says things to discourage you and decrease the wind in your sails or go so far as to poke a hole in it.
  • Continue with your plan that you know to be true.  The evidence will be seen directly by those listening and the truth will not be hid.

Have you experienced situations like this?  What did you do to combat the argument?  How did you create peace inside your soul and move forward with your plan?  We would love for you to share a story below!

Cowtown Netweavers 03.30.2011

March 30, 2011

Today was a presentation by Mike McCaleb.  These were my takeaway’s:

  • You make choices to be optimistic
  • Believe in Your Heart, Train for it, and Proclaim it
  • It is not the hits you take but how you get back up
  • Set Goals

Cowtown Netweavers 01.26.2011

January 26, 2011
Today, I was the one who had the opportunity to give my presentation at Cowtown Netweavers for our meeting.  I spoke on what services Medical Account Solutions provides and gave everyone a bit of education on the process. I am really passionate about what I do and was very inspired by all the questions that people had.  I particularly want to thank Don Henry, Eddie Dzurilla and Richard Sherman for their insight and feedback with additional information. 
Today’s inspiration came from a book called Never Eat Alone by Keith Ferrazzi:  “We all live one life…and that life is all about the people we live it with. Connecting lets us have our cake and eat it too…serving the interests of both our work and our life, ourselves and others.”  It is a great book on Networking and  if you desire to know more, you can google and get several “book reviews” to get more information or just go buy it or borrow it from someone like I did!

Cowtown Netweavers 01.05.2011

January 5, 2011

Today was another great meeting…Mike McCaleb shared with each of us today that we all must have goals.  May I encourage you to read this:

Another year and another set of resolutions. If you’re like most Americans, you’ll probably forget your goals by mid-February. So how do you make your resolutions actually happen this year? 

First, keep in mind that goals are dreams; but don’t stop at just dreaming. Turn your dreams into bite-sized pieces that will gradually create a big event in your life. If you’re waiting on an outside variable to change your life, you have a long wait. You have to do something. It’s your responsibility to fix your life, not someone else’s. It’s time to sit down, make some goals, and take control. Use Dave’s online goal tracker now.

Goal setting is how you win. Once you’ve made your resolutions, they will drive you forward. The goals will motivate you to seek activities that will help you succeed. It’s not always fun, but those exercises bring you closer to your goal and make you a winner.

If you want to actually achieve your goals this year, then consider the following:
1. Be specific.
When setting goals, be specific in what you want to achieve. Vagueness will only cause you to feel overwhelmed, and you will just give up.

2. Make your goals measureable.
In order to know if you achieved the goal, it must be measurable. For example, if you want to lose weight, don’t simply write down “lose weight” as a goal. How much weight do you want to lose? Or don’t just write “spend more time with family.” How much time do you want to spend with your family every night?

3. Are they your goals?
Only you can set your own goals. If your spouse, co-worker or friend sets a goal for you, you’re not going to achieve it. Taking ownership will give you more incentive to meet your goal.

4. Set a time limit.
Setting a time frame will help you set realistic goals. For example, if you want to save more money, list how much money a month you want to put into your savings account.

5. Put them in writing.
Putting your goals in writing will make you much more likely to achieve them. Write down your goals and review them often. This will give you motivation to make them a reality.

Cowtown Netweavers 12.15.2010

December 15, 2010
The inspiration message of the day:
Watch your thoughts; they become words.
Watch your words; they become actions.
Watch your actions; they become habits.
Watch your habits; they become character.
Watch your character; it becomes your destiny.
– Frank Outlaw

Cowtown Netweavers 12.08.2010

December 8, 2010

Today, Mike McCaleb, one of the founders of Cowtown Netweavers ( gave us a talk on Networking Tips.  I wanted to share them with you here.

Networking Tips

1. Have an attitude of giving.  Always giving.

2. People do business with people They Know, They Like, and They Trust.  You need to get to know the people you are networking with.  Find out about them.  Build relationships to represent them and so they can represent you.

3. Leads:  Means you have already called and introduced the person and made it a “warm lead”.  We all have enough cold leads to follow up on.

Cowtown Netweavers 12.01.2010

December 1, 2010

Thought for the day:  Thoughts become things…choose the good ones!

Each guest was given a copy of Dave Ramsey’s book: Financial Peace Revisted, by me as a gift. I challenge each of you to read a chapter a week. Being debt-free allows you to do unbelievable things for others in your community and around the world. Live Like No One Else so that you can Give Like No One Else!

Happy Safe Trails to you…go be a success!

Webinar: Networking Secrets for Thriving in Totally Screwed-Up Times

November 7, 2010

This webinar was presented by Keith Ferrazzi on Thursday, November 4th, 2010.  I listened to it and then re-listened to the call and took notes.  These are my takeaway’s from the session.

The worst anyone can do is say no.  -Pete Ferrazzi

Relationship as the Number 1 key to your success.  Where is your people plan? 

1. Focus:  Set specific goals.  Have clarity around your goals:  what you need to know and what to do.

2. Target:  Who are the individuals who can help you achieve these goals? Organize, prioritize, and manage this.

3. Define:  What you can do for other people and te most important relationships.

4. Alignment:  Invite people around you that care, have respect, your permission to influence. Build a few key people out there to help you kick butt and have your back.  Align your brand.

5. Outreach:  Clear strategy for pinging and outreach. You need: intimacy, candor, accountability, and generosity.

6. Renew:  Constantly growing and being better, expand.

You can’t think your way into a different way of ACTING.  You can act your way into a new way of THINKING.

It takes small doses of change.  Start with your mindset, the basic ways you think about ways to your success.  Develope your skill set: networking, preparing, meeting, expanding.  Tell Your Story:  pre-judge (it starts by how you judge yourself and others), passions, dreams, struggles, and habits.  What do you do that holds you back?  Ask for HELP!!!

Speech: What is Success?

November 3, 2010

Success = the favorable or prosperous outcome of something attempted or endeavored

If success was just about information – everyone would be successful.  Information is just stuff until you take it and apply it in action.  If you believe success happens without challenge, you are naïve.  Your biggest challenge is your greatest opportunity.  You have to take action to make the opportunity happen.   How you cope with the challenges differentiates the average person from the excellent.  Do you want to be average or do you want to be excellent?

Average = typical, common, ordinary, normal

Excellent = possessing outstanding quality, remarkably good, extraordinary, superior

“That you may approve things that are excellent; that you may be sincere and without offense till the day of Christ.”  Philippians 1:10

Don’t wish it was easier, wish you were better.  Make it your purpose and take the time to prepare.  Get educated in the areas where you need to know more.  You must learn to do better…to get better, you must work at it.

You need to have a picture of what success looks like to you.  “Without a vision, you will parish.” Proverbs 29:18.  The problem is you & you are the solution.  Take charge and fix it.  Be intentional and aim at your goals with focus.  Any person working towards a goal is a success…because he knows what he is doing and why.  If you don’t know what you are working towards, you are unsuccessful. 95% of people are not successful because they do not have goals.  Success is a result of small incremental steps.

You need to ingrain in your spirit and brain who you are.  You become what you think about most of the time.  Believe in yourself because God believes in you!

In the book: “You’ll See It When You Believe It” by Wayne Dyer, he said that if you get up in the morning expecting to have a bad day, you’ll rarely disappoint yourself. He said, “Stop complaining! Differentiate yourself from your competition. Don’t be a duck. Be an eagle. Ducks quack and complain. Eagles soar above the crowd.”

Persevere not just 100x’s, but over, and over, and over and over.  Never give up!

REVIEW steps to success:

  1. Get information and apply it.
  2. Remember your biggest challenge is your greatest opportunity.
  3. Strive for excellence.
  4. Purpose to be different.
  5. Have a vision.  Remain focused.
  6. Believe in yourself.
  7. Soar like an eagle.
  8. Never give up.

[Speech given by Misty Gilbert @Cowtown Netweavers MeetUp 11.03.2010.  Watch video of Success Speech taped by Charla Arnold – THANKS Charla, I had no clue you were going to do this for me!]

Fort Worth Chocolate Blues and Business Networking Festival

October 23, 2010

Thursday, November 4th, 2010
Come and Go-Anytime 10am-4pm
The Stockyards Station-Stampede Room
130 E Exchange Avenue, Fort Worth, TX 76164

The Fort Worth Chocolate Blues features a business expo with vendors, door prizes, open networking, an appointment setting station, speed networking, networking games, a giant business card exchange, round able workshops, blues background music and chocolate galore!

The purpose of this event is for local decision makers to connect. You will meet business owners, managers, leaders, CEO’s, coaches, consultants, authors, speakers, trainers, marketing experts, technology guru’s and local media contacts. Parking is FREE!

This is a HUGE networking event, so allow yourself plenty of time. You may bring business cards, at least 300-400 to pass out. No literature allowed unless you are a vendor.

For Vendor Information: contact Shelly @417.353.2610 or

Cowtown Netweavers 10.20.2010

October 20, 2010

There are life givers and life takers. Don’t let them take your dreams.  Be a live giver.  Lift people up.  You are royalty…kings & queens.

Board Membership announced with Cowtown Netweavers!

October 14, 2010

I received a call today from Mark Feuling with Refresh H20, the organizer of Cowtown Netweavers MeetUp group.  He informed me that the board had voted to offer me the position of participating as a board member since the person who held the position previously had resigned.  I had no clue this was in the works or even something that would be offered to me even if it was! I must tell you that I am very excited and eager to be apart of this team.  I want to encourage business owners out there to succeed and it is my goal to assist them however I can in making that happen.  We each learn from each other and this is a great opportunity to get ideas, feedback, assistance, encouragement, referrals, and much more.

The introduction to Cowtown Netweavers at reads:

Cowtown Netweavers was modeled after several other successful Netweavers groups throughout Dallas. Our goal is to bring the unique and effective Netweavers approach to networking to Fort Worth. The approach is very unique in that this is not a for-profit organization putting these together, but simply professionals who wish to truly network their business and contacts, to benefit others in the group.

The group meets each Wednesday at 7:00 am at I-30 and University in Ft. Worth. Ol’ South Pancake House located at 1509 S. University Fort Worth, Texas 76107.  The cost of the meeting is $1 plus set breakfast menu of $9.

Please join us!

C3 for Woman Event – Reasons Why You Rock

October 13, 2010

Today, I was a guest of Michelle Martin with C3 for Woman Event held at the Botanical Gardens.  What an awesome and exciting experience to see woman entrepreneurs collaborating together with a vision to inspire, encourage and brainstorm.  Kathy Light was the speaker today on the theme: Reasons Why You Rock.  You can get all the details of it here:

I want to stop and recap for you my take-aways from my notes:

  • Realize your greatness. 
  • You are special. 
  • We focus on our mistakes, our short comings, the way others are better, but we can’t reach our potential when we think about the negative. 
  • You are a Child of God…we were born to manifest the glory of God in us. 
  • Letting your light shine gives others the power to also. 
  • Begin with gratitude. 
  • Then share with others from your own experience “why you rock”.

Thank you Michelle for inviting me to attend as your guest!

Cowtown Netweavers MeetUp 10.13.2010

October 13, 2010

Look for the stars…they only shine in the dark.

We are all dreamers…DREAM happy and DREAM big!

Cowtown Netweavers MeetUp 09.29.2010

September 29, 2010

Consistency breeds success.

20 years from now, you will regret the things you didn’t do over the things you did do.

Cowtown Netweavers MeetUp 09.22.2010

September 22, 2010

Hang in there long enough to win!  Keep moving even when you are scared and make mistakes.  Success is that way, just a little past splat.

taken from: Monday Morning Choices by David Cottrell