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Invest in People

October 30, 2013

Teachers invest in people.  They help you learn to study, give you knowledge, impress on you the reasons and importance of why you need to study, they help you achieve goals, they make effort to help you learn.

Doctors invest in people.  They help you stay healthy, help you understand your body, they give you medicine to make you better, they monitor your progress, they want you to grow and enjoy life.

But teachers and doctors are not the only ones who can invest in people.  Each of us can.  Each of us have the same opportunity and ability to invest in others.  But do we?

I received communication from a client a few weeks ago via email after I had shared a blog that I thought the client would be interested in following:

Thank you so much for continuing to invest in me…. I rarely if ever see that!!! and I love it 🙂 Please continue passing along things that you think can help me grow…

What does it take to invest in someone?

I believe it starts with a foundation of common interest about them and their lives.  It takes paying attention to what they are interested in or want to grow in.  It takes sharing and giving.  It takes courage.  It takes time.  It takes an honest attempt to help.  It takes being willing to give and not get anything in return.  It takes wanting them to succeed above all else.  Even before you succeed.

Does it take much?  No, it really doesn’t, but most people focus so much on what they get they don’t give.  They don’t focus on helping others succeed.  They don’t spend time knowing how to learn to grow others, time learning to learn them, time to give.  They don’t invest.  Even in the small things.

May I encourage you today, spend a little bit of time and invest in those around you!

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October 23, 2013

Nomination for Savvy Chicks Rule 2013

September 20, 2013

I received word yesterday, that I was nominated for the Savvy Chicks Rule 2013!

I was chosen as a Savvy Chick who is “Ruling” in a Spiritual Influence or Teaching category and recognized for Surpassing every obstacle that stands in my way, for letting my life Shine in everything I do and for realizing that I can Succeed in everything I put my mind to!

I want to publicly give a BIG Thank You to Pam Long Weatherford for nominating me for the Savvy Chicks Rule 2013!  My goal is to be generous, encourage, support, and inspire you both personally and in business.  I consider it a great honor to have received such a reward and want to give a special thanks to my friend Pam for her friendship and believing in me to the point she wished to share with Savvy Chicks why I was qualified to earn this reward.

I am blessed!!!

Why Good Communication is Key

August 8, 2013

In order to be a great leader you must be a great communicator. The key to becoming a skillful communicator is rarely found in what has been taught in the world of education.  From our earliest days in the classroom we are trained to focus on enunciation, vocabulary, presence, delivery, grammar, syntax and the like. In other words, we are taught to focus on ourselves. While each of these things are important to learn, the critical elements of communication are rarely taught.

In order to be a great communicator, you have to be intentional in your communication.  You have to be keenly focused on the relationship and your interaction with others.  Your message won’t be taken to heart by your audience and won’t be understood, let alone make an impact if you don’t.

While developing an understanding of great communication skills is easier than one might think, being able to appropriately draw upon said skills when the chips are down is not always as easy as one might hope for.

The best communicators are great listeners and astute in their observations. Great communicators are skilled at reading a person/group by sensing the moods, dynamics, attitudes, values and concerns of those being communicated with. Not only do they read their environment well, but they possess the uncanny ability to adapt their messaging to said environment without missing a beat. The key is that the message is not about the messenger, it must be 100% about the listener and meeting the needs and the expectations of those you’re communicating with.

What ways do you practice your communication skills?

Lessons Learned from Pool Maintenance

July 26, 2013

I bought a HUD Home February 2007.  After I moved in, it required some professionals to come in and get it repaired and in working order because the house had sat vacant for so long.  I had never been a pool owner before and so there was much to learn about what is required to keep a pool “up and running”.  I was determined to learn as much as I could myself to save the cost of this being maintained by a Pool Servicing Company.  From pool parts, to chemicals, to a routine, and how to balance the PH…there was so much to be learned!  At the beginning, it was very overwhelming and I felt I would never get it right.

One of my girlfriends has a pool [though hers is salt water and not chlorine like mine] and she kept telling me, you can get this.  It will just take time.  Before long, you will know what is wrong with your pool just by looking at it.  I stuck with it and 6 years later, I can tell you she is right!

The other morning I was out tending to my pool and I was reflecting on the fact that there are so many lessons that can be learned by pool maintenance.  If you have a pool, you will relate.  If you don’t, I think you still will relate!

  • No matter what you know in life, you will be faced with something at some point that you don’t know.  Don’t be afraid to ask the experts for help.  They know their stuff and they will teach you if you are willing to learn.  If you haven’t found someone willing to teach you, keep looking, keep searching – they are out there!
  • To learn anything new, you must have a desire to learn, you must be willing to spend the time it takes to learn, and you must be dedicated to the process, no matter how hard or how long it takes.
  • Taking care of your pool on a daily basis avoids issues developing with your PH levels, your equipment, and you are able to spot things quickly that need to be addressed.  Being disciplined to have a routine and stick to it will prevent long hours, money and extensive effort having to be applied later to get it back into shape after it has gotten out of control.  This is true about so many other areas in life including diet, exercise, a financial budget, projects, relationships, business development, and more!  Though at times it is hard to see the benefits of a routine when you only focus on it on a daily basis, when you step back and see the progress you see the results of sparkling bright clear water!
  • When life happens and distracts you from your routine, for instance you went out of town on vacation or a business trip and therefore your pool didn’t get tended to like it should have and now the water is showing signs of being ugly, you will have to spend the extra time beyond your normal routine, exert more effort to get it back on track and make up for lost time, so that you can resume your daily maintenance.  Don’t believe all is lost and that its a done deal.  Jump in and do what you can as quickly as you can so that the problem doesn’t get to a level of needing more help than even you can give it.  You can’t lose heart, you have to stay focused and realize that extreme measures will have to be taken to get things back on track.
  • If even after all the years of experience you get stuck and can’t get the PH levels to be what they need to be, remember that sometimes things are beyond your control and it requires the “big dogs” to come in and take over.  Know who to contact in case of an emergency so that when you need them you can call them to the rescue.
  • Just like pool maintenance takes work, relationships take work.  You have to put something into it to get something out of it.  But your hard effort does pay off and you can enjoy floating in the pool on a warm Texas afternoon, even if it takes time to get to that point!
  • Your pool will have its own characteristics based off of the number of swimmers each week, the amount of sun vs shade, the size of your pool, your water chemistry, etc.  You will have to be in tune with each of these elements in order to “learn” your pool to develop the ability to know what is wrong with it at a glance so that you will know what it needs.  Simply add a bit more chemicals?  Increased water levels?  Each of us can develop these skills with relationships too!  If you spend the time being in tune with what is going on with a person, you will know at a glance what is wrong and how you can be of help.  Sometimes not everything is seen at a glance, but with time, all things become exposed.
  • Once you have learned your pool, there is a risk to not keep learning.  New products come out, the environment changes, things erode slowly over time so you don’t even see what is happening on a daily basis.  We must be willing to continually learn and at times step back and look at it with a harder evaluation to make sure we aren’t missing something.
  • With a pool there are seasons when it requires more work than other times.  In the fall, the process of scooping out leaves is non stop.  In the winter, the PH levels change and you have to adjust your routine.  In the spring, the rains make the water consistency hard to keep balanced and pretty.  In the summer, the PH levels change again and you will be spending more time tending to it and putting chemicals in it, but you also spend more time enjoying it.  Just as with life, there are seasons to each phase.  Learn to make the most of today and enjoy them!  Don’t let a summer go by without making sure you are getting your pool time or in the winter you will wonder why you have it and regret ever buying a house with a pool!

How do you help a Team Member that is Hurting?

June 8, 2013

Have you ever been in the position where you arrived at work to find a Team Member hurting?  You can see it in their eyes, their body language, their expression, the mood displayed.

How do you approach someone that is hurting to find out how you can help?

How do you show you care without prying into their personal life and asking them to share what they may not feel comfortable sharing?

How do you reach out and encourage?

How do you show support and communicate “I love you” no matter what it is that has happened?  No matter what you are feeling?  No matter if it will get better.

Every person  has a different temperament, however the following list are ways you can make an impact and open the door to let them know you saw the pain in their life and know they are experiencing a difficult time.

 

Here are 5 simple things you can do to reach out and show you care:

  • Give a hug.  There is nothing in the world like a hug.  There is nothing that can communicate what words can’t with a hug.  It doesn’t have to be long, it doesn’t have to be forceful, just a quick pull towards you and squeeze them tight and let them go.
  • Invite them to share if they wish to.  A simple: “You seem to be having a rough day, do you need to talk?”  Sometimes all that someone needs to do is share what is hurting them, bothering or perplexing them, creating frustration in them, etc.  Sometimes if they just have someone who is willing to listen they can open up and tell you more then you ever dreamed they would.
  • Inquire if you can do something.  A simple: “Is there anything I can do for you today?”  If you have a report with the individual, they will know you are genuinely interested in their life and are not manipulating the conversation to obtain gossip.
  • Let them know you are praying for them.  If you feel they are open to this, pull them in your office and grab their hands and pray together.  If you don’t feel this would be received well, do it alone.
  • Send them an email, text message or card in the mail to let them know you care and are thinking of them.  Nothing cheers up a hurting, lonely, distraught heart like a message from a friend to let them know you care.

What is something you have done and found to work at helping a Team Member who is hurting?  Share below!