Archive for August, 2013

Life Plan Coaching Session Day 2

August 28, 2013

We were to begin Day 2 at 8.30am. Fighting feelings from the 1st Day of coaching and dragging physically from mental and emotional exhaustion, we began Day 2.

Before we began, Chris prayed for our time, prayed for him to help me, for me to learn what I needed to, praised God for his part in our lives and the love he has for each of us, and more.  We then launched in and reviewed the nuggets of things that impacted me, along with the lessons I learned from the day before.


Module 6

We created and reviewed a list of the Talent Heart Assessment. What are your:

  • passions
  • needs
  • drives
  • obsessions
  • characteristics
  • qualities
  • yearnings
  • hopes (or expectations)
  • accomplishments

What is the message from these?


Module 7

We reviewed Thinking Wave Links:

In a Scale of 1-10, we rated how I relate to what feels the most comfortable to me with:

  • Risk
  • Change
  • Variables
  • Process
  • Ambiguity
  • Opportunity

1 being the least Risk and 10 being the most Risk. You add these numbers up, divide them by 6 and then you are placed on a chart. The chart has 5 categories: Grinders, Minders, Keepers, Finders and Conceivers. This scale is done both personally and then in business. You can’t be off more than two points or you will crash and burn within 18 months if you stay there.


Module 8

We reviewed Internal Wiring:  What are your drivers vs what are your comfort zones?


Module 9

We created and reviewed My Replenishment Cycle:  When you are replenished, you are strong, face fears, you can do anything. When you aren’t replenished, you are worn down, tired, everything becomes difficult to do.


Module 10

We created and reviewed My Core Values: Core Values are the things that you use to make decisions and filters.  These can change as your life changes.


Module 11

We brainstormed and made a list of nouns and verbs of items that “I exist because/to”:

These things make My Life Purpose (why I exist).  These things create My Life Vision (where I am headed).  These things are My Life Strategies (how I will get there).

From this list, we made a list of things that fuel me (give me energy, keep me going, make me thrive) and things that are brake pedals (things that disable you completely, make you stop or shut you down, and thus create utter difficulty to move forward). The goal is to increase the gas pedal and manage the brake. The brake list is something you want to stay off of.


Module 12

We then made a Life Perspective Filter:  This list contained a list of: What needs Action?


Module 13

We then created a W.I.N.’s Wheel (What’s Important Now):  This was made in the Life Domains: Personal, Family, Career, Church and Community.


Module 14

We then created a Life Initiatives Profile: What are the keys, objectives, next steps, start date and today’s status of them [red, yellow or green].


Module 15

We then created a Life Plan Accountability. The list consists of:

  • Partner(s) = people who can handle all the information, all the details, keep you accountable, people who are smart, value you, and are willing to be that support to you
  • Mentor(s) = people who pour wisdom into you
  • Friend(s) = people who you like to be around that can be a friend to you [but are not considered partners and whom you may not share the same level of details with]
  • Protegé(s) = people you pour into


Module 16
We created and reviewed specific Life Plan Learning’s from my coaching session.


Life Plan Coaching Session Day 1

August 27, 2013

Today was the day for my first session of Life Plan Coaching with Chris LoCurto.  Chris has an awesome place, and the view is gorgeous!!!

Over breakfast, Chris shared the plan for the day…starting with a diagram of how we face problems…Eastern Culture vs Western Culture.  He said the session would not be information for solutions, it will likely be an emotional day…to the point that I may not want to come back.  He asked me to remember to push past that if thats the way I felt.

We headed upstairs to the theater room, in front of the white board to begin the Life Plan Coaching Session.  Chris stated by the end of the day, I would hate the question he would ask of me the most, which would be “Why?”


Module 1

We started with: “What is the primary thing you want to get out of this? …the next 2 days?”

  • Primary Goal
  • Personal Goal
  • Family Goal
  • Career Goal
  • Church Goal
  • Community Goal
Module 2
Chris asked:
  1. What is right?
  2. What is wrong?
  3. What is confused?
  4. What is missing?
I answered the questions.  Chris asked, Why?  I answered with more answers.  Chris asked, Why?  I answered more in-depth yet, and Chris asked, Why?Chris reminded me to understand my personality style.  To be comfortable with it.  The things discovered in today’s session will not be to create victims.  Not to create monsters.  The purpose is to point out what happened and why.
Module 3
We reviewed Turning Points in My Life Story.  We intellectually understand our lives but not fully until we emotionally understand.
God is in the middle of ALL that happened.  [I know this theoretically  just wish I knew this in reality at the time I was facing these things in my life, like I do now.]
Module 4
We created Turning Points Profile of the review of my life.  We then created themes of these periods.
Module 5a and Module 5b
I then made a list of Turning Points Learned from this process, which consisted of a list of 30 items.  [At dinner Chris told me that the most he has ever had someone do was 26, I exceeded that.]Chris asked:  What are you afraid of?  God wants us to surrender to take it away from us. Until you do, he has to work around those things.  Listen.  Focus.  Allow God to speak to you.You can’t fix the business until you fix yourself.
My Homework:  Write a Letter to God to include
F = Family or Future
R = Reputation
M = Money
P = Possessions
T = Time
H = Health
I took 6 pages of notes…there will be more posts about this later, but for now, you know what we covered today.


August 26, 2013

Even a mistake may turn out to be the one thing necessary to a worthwhile achievement.

– Henry Ford

The Story behind the Smile

August 22, 2013

This is the profile picture of me on my business website and canvas print in my home office.

Would you have known that this picture was taken the night after my brother attempted suicide for the 6th time?  Would you have dreamed that the bags under my eyes come from tears of sorrow for the pain of life?  Would you have known that I was determined to move forward with the creation and update of my website and would not back out of this appointment for anything?  Would you dream that behind my smile is the fear of the unknown outcome of my brother’s life?  No, you wouldn’t unless you were one of my close friends and knew what had happened.

The point of this blog post:

You never know what is going on in someone’s life…you never know what is being hidden behind their smile. Take time to make their day, you have no clue what battle they are fighting!

Give them a smile, a smile is the prettiest thing you can wear!


August 19, 2013

Every problem has in it the seeds of its own solution. If you don’t have any problems, you don’t get any seeds.

– Norman Vincent Peale

Social Media Questions

August 16, 2013

Facebook is a main form of Social Media interaction today.  Everyone uses it for a different platform.  Some people are out to vent about their day.  Some people check in at every spot they go.  Some people never post, never like, never comment, never share, never seem alive.  Some people even have a generic profile picture because they want to look like they are hiding.  No matter your reasons, your method, your choice of which Social Media you use, we all must address these questions:

  • What do I want to get out of Social Media?
  • Who do I want to interact with?
  • Why do I want to be on Social Media?
  • Who are my “friends”?
  • What happens if someone disagrees with my post?
  • What happens if I hurt someone’s feelings?
  • What message do I want my Social Media to say about me?
  • How often do I wish to engage on Social Media?
  • Who am I trying to target with my Social Media?
  • What are the benefits of Social Media?

These are a few questions that you must answer in order to create and have the online Social Media presence you want.  Once these are answered, you can move forward with implementing the purpose and vision you have for Social Media.

As you reflect on the answer to these questions above, are there others you feel need to be asked?  If so, share them with the readers below!

We look forward to hearing from you and you sharing the what, why, and who of Social Media with us!

Why do you use Social Media?

August 14, 2013

As a society that has created a social platform online, I find it interesting the reasons why people use it, how the patterns vary, and what people expect to get out of it. I like to study them to learn what qualities I want to build in my Social Media presence.

I find a common thread that people want to be followed, but are not interested in following you back. They want you to comment on their post, but are not interested in engaging back. Is what you have to say more important than what I have to say?

To me, the online social presence shouldn’t be any different then your offline social presence. Do you have friendships just to be a one way street? Do you engage with people only to have a bunch of friends but not be a friend? Are you a giver or just a taker?

Why do we look at the online presence different then the offline? If God views what you think in your heart the same as what comes out of your mouth, why is more importance put on the online vs the offline?

If we really kept in mind that people do business with people they know, like, and trust…wouldn’t that impact how we interacted a lot more?

If we remember that if you help enough people get what they want, they will help you get what you want, don’t you think it would make a difference in how you interacted on Social Media?  What if we kept in focus that every person out there wants happiness, meaning, and significance…would this change how we interacted with them?  Would we spend more time encouraging and uplifting others?

So my question to you today is: What is your purpose in creating a Social Media presence?  Make it intentional!


August 12, 2013

Your profession is not what brings home your paycheck. Your profession is what you were put on earth to do with such passion and such intensity that it becomes spiritual in calling.

— Vincent Van Gogh

Why Good Communication is Key

August 8, 2013

In order to be a great leader you must be a great communicator. The key to becoming a skillful communicator is rarely found in what has been taught in the world of education.  From our earliest days in the classroom we are trained to focus on enunciation, vocabulary, presence, delivery, grammar, syntax and the like. In other words, we are taught to focus on ourselves. While each of these things are important to learn, the critical elements of communication are rarely taught.

In order to be a great communicator, you have to be intentional in your communication.  You have to be keenly focused on the relationship and your interaction with others.  Your message won’t be taken to heart by your audience and won’t be understood, let alone make an impact if you don’t.

While developing an understanding of great communication skills is easier than one might think, being able to appropriately draw upon said skills when the chips are down is not always as easy as one might hope for.

The best communicators are great listeners and astute in their observations. Great communicators are skilled at reading a person/group by sensing the moods, dynamics, attitudes, values and concerns of those being communicated with. Not only do they read their environment well, but they possess the uncanny ability to adapt their messaging to said environment without missing a beat. The key is that the message is not about the messenger, it must be 100% about the listener and meeting the needs and the expectations of those you’re communicating with.

What ways do you practice your communication skills?


August 5, 2013

A passion for life is one of the most attractive qualities in a human being. If you want a teammate or a life mate who loves to be around you, all you need to do is love to be around.

– Denis Waitley

5 Keys to Establish You Know What You are Talking About

August 1, 2013

In order to create a rapport with your team, you need to establish a relationship with them that you know what you are talking about. Nobody wants to be taught from someone who “thinks” they know the right thing. It is pertinent that you have your data and facts in order and spend time understanding them to be able to explain it in detail to someone who doesn’t. This means that you must develop a technical command over your subject matter. If you don’t possess subject matter expertise, few people will give you the time of day. You will be passed off as a “wanna be” and someone who “thinks they know it all”. People have little interest in listening to those individuals who cannot add value to a situation or topic, but force themselves into a conversation just to hear themselves speak. You must bring value to the table to be heard.

1. Spend time learning your subject matter.
2. Create articles to support what you know.
3. Be willing to have discussions around the topic to answer the why’s and how’s people have about it.
4. Find like minded people who have an interest in what you do so that you can learn to share your ideas and knowledge with others.
5. Perform speaking engagements to perfect your skill.